anewkindof_me’s Story
Categories
Made on January 17, 2007
So, long story short...
While anewkindof_me was in love
anewkindof_me made the mistake of
giving him too many chances
My Advice to You is
being bipolar isnt a reason.
Here's the whole story
I dont know hwow to say it without making me sound pathetic. but i was in love. very much so. he cheated once, and i let him back in. he cheated twice, and i let him back in. my rationale was that he was bipolar.
i want to shoot myself in the face for rationalizing that at all.
Want to join in on the conversation? Sign In or Register for Free.
Comments (7)
I don't think bipolar has anything to do with it. I've met a handful during my life time and cheating wasn't one of the symptoms of being bipolar.
Love makes people do silly things..
But I have to agree with Dennis, I don't think being bipolar would cause this, maybe a mild case of schizophrenia?
yea. that was the general consensus from everyone that knows him. maybe i should have said that? he seems to be a different person from one day to the next...
maybe my story should have been about how I shouldn't blame myself for someone elses problems.
either way: lesson learned.
wow, i thought i was the only one who thought that way. my bipolar guy failed to tell me he got married on one of his many absences. i was devastated. what i learned is that i don't need to keep taking him back. i don't recycle anymore. and, my relationship with him reinforced my own self hatred. i hated myself for loving him. when i stopped postponning loving myself, it was no longer necessary to entwine myself with him any longer.
Do not beat up on yourself. You are only human. It is one of lifes lessons. We all have some much to learn, we cannot be expected to know everything from the start. It sounds like you were quite compassionate towards him and he was the one that blow it.
We cannot change people though to what we want them to be.
I don't think he is bipolar either. I think he is just a loser. Instead of hitting yourself in the face - kiss your mirror and be glad you learned a lesson and did not waste your life with this cheating loser. You can bet he will do the same with the next girl.
It takes time and experience to learn this one. I've found, once a cheater, always a cheater, it's like a disease or something they have to get out of their system.