hugerobot’s Story
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So, long story short...
hugerobot made the mistake of
giving everything I had to her.
My Advice to You is
to keep part of yourself to yourself.
Here's the whole story
When I was a sophomore in high school, my plan was to leave the suburbs (that I hated so so much) and move to San Francisco to start anew (after I graduated, obv.). Throughout the next couple years, plans got solidified and come June of 2004, I was going to do it. Flash to May of 2004. I met and subsequently fall in love with someone I would want to spend my life. I still went to San Francisco but only made it two months. I came back for her. Biggest mistake of my life. We ended up dating for 2.5 years when she decided to break up with me for no reason whatsoever (or so I thought). Later I come to find that she started dating someone new within a week of our split.
I gave her my whole heart. Everything. There was not a part of me I kept to myself. She took everything away. I'm still reeling.
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Reel or not, one sided love isn't true love. The sooner you agree with this, the sooner you will get over it. Most romantics, IMO, fall in love with falling in love. That is what you may miss most is that expression of yourself to another. Just an observation.
"most romantics fall in love with falling in love."
well put, never heard someone describe it that way.
I understand this girl hurt you, and you are angry and heartbroken, and you will probably be in that state for awhile. "This too will pass" I know you may not listen to me right now, but I am saying this because I went through the same thing. And I went through the process; it took me a year to get over the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. So I am coming from the same place, so you can trust what I say. Now, for my point ;) As much as you want to be angry at them for ruining what was supposed to be perfect, and breaking your heart so, it just means they weren't the one. Don't be angry at them for ever, because it will only ruin what you had. And what you had was something special, so take it, for what it was, be grateful for it while it was, learn from it, and move on. Because you will find the person you are supposed to be with, you did learn something from that relationship, and it helped make you the person you will become by experiencing it.
Can we all agree that there is no "one"? Specifically, the person you are no longer going out with is not the "one"? If we can agree on that we should be able to do away with a lot of stalking and unsolicited greeting cards.
This is going to sounds way to cold and rational to make practical sense, but I do think there is great value in accepting that you should not be going out with someone who does not want to go out with you. There's even a romantic's (read altruists, read masochists) version of that idea that says if you really want them to be the happiest person they can be, and not being with you makes them happy, then you should be willing to make that sacrifice. (I told you this was going to be impractical).
Still, getting dumped by people you really love hurts like a medieval flailing. My sympathies. Now get your ass back to San Francisco.
I don't want to sound cruel, but it's for the best. Love is a lie. A chemical imbalance, at best. It only leads to pain.
I know how it feels like dude. I'm been in that situation myself couple of years back. I'm still recovering from the situation. The fact remains that she was the one who walked away. She didn't deserve you. You gave her your whole heart. She threw it on the road. But don't worry. Sooner or later, someone will pick it up and care for it the way you could have never cared for. I'm telling you, it's happening to me.