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So, long story short...
anonymous made the mistake of
getting to know this girl
My Advice to You is
do not trust anyone, no matter how weel you think you know them
Here's the whole story
Hello, this problem has been bugging me for 1 whole year
It all started when my close friend asked me if I'd ever change my opinion about her if I knew her deep dark secret and since I'm a very open minded person, I said of course I won't change my opinion and there it was, she told me that she has been raped as a young girl, and nobody except for me 2 of my friends, and her sister knows this I took this with an open heart, tryied to help her get over this, and also she started hurting and cutting herself with a blaze so then, and started smoking, I also stayed on her side, suporting her.... But when I asked her to tell me what happened she told me that this started when she was 2 years old and that her cousin was the one who raped her and btw, her cousin is a few months older but then she started saying a different story, and told me that she thought sex was a game, and she was the one to teach her cousin that's why he is still raping her
That's when it occured to me, didn't she just tell me a diffrent story?? and if the first story was the correct one, how could a two year old remember details, like she told me that her cousin used to let her watch porn at the age of 2....!!!
time passes and she is still telling me contradicted stories, and I kept on supporting her, saying that this might affected her badly but one day she tells me that she thinks she is pregnant because she is "late" then, I had to make other arrangments, with the help of my two freinds that, we tried our best to keep this, and still being there for her
We agreed one day we should buy the pregnancy test for her but she told us that she will try and get one without any family member noticing that day I called her to see what happened, she told me that she'd aready did the test twice, and it was "+" then I asked her in an innocent way, how did you get the test there, she seemed to be nervous, and told me that her friend, an adult, bought it for her (I wanna point that this person, as described to me is a very good friend of her, and througt our 2 years of being close friends, I never heared of this person ever before....which is very odd, because I know most of her cloe friends)
to get her out of this mess, we asked many pharmecies about a medicine to aborte this baby witout any operations (becasue they are costy, and we won't be able to do them withour having her family knowing everything) so we found a medecin, but the owner of the pharmacy told us that only an adult can get it
by that time, we felt that something fishy was going on so to make sure, I gave her my migraine medicine name (which she dosen't know) to see if she'll tell us she got it, then we'd be 100% sure that se is lying but, lucky her, she told us that her friend (the same one from before) got her something called "Cytotec"
as I searched the net, I found that this medication can cause abortion in some cases not all, but to cause abortion, 4 pills must be taken daily for a week or so but also has strong side effects and she told me that she took one pill, and then 2 weeks later, she took another one (because the pills were with her "friend" and that friend was out of town for a while) and then before she could take the second pill, I found out that got her period (and fyi, pregnant girls don't have their period)
and what made me so sure that there is something fishy, wen she talkes about the "rape" she doesn't seem to be shy about it and aslo, her attitude doesn't show that she has problems, no matter what a good actresse she is plus, once, she started to chat with me online, making herself the guy that raped her, as if he haked her and she told me that she opened her mail, while the same time he did so she was able to read everything I wrote but I wasn't able to read what she was saying (and fyi, that is impossible in msn, two people can't open the same msn in the same time)
so can you please help me by saying if her lying shows and did I do the right thing my breaking up with her (our friendshipe ended and now I'm treating her like any person I just met, so I don't talk to her much, and today, the last day of school, I didn't even wave her goodbye)
Did I do the right thing.. and as God my witness, to b fair, I gav her 3 chances to come out, but still she ensist on the stroy from before...
Comments (7)
You gave her multiple chances. While she obviously needs some help and totally abandoning her would be bad, you might want to slowly ween off and find her some outside help.
I tried, Oh God I tried so much but the second my grades started gtting down and sleepless nights thinking how could I help which led to multiple fights with my parents... But you know, the story is all a lie and I know that, so she needs help, serious help, plus, she hurt me bad, now I don't konw if I can ever trust her
It sounds like this girl, and maybe yourself, are pretty young. It's a hard thing to do to "un-friend" someone, but there comes a point when it's more damaging to remain friends with someone than not be friends with someone. I think that you should avoid her, for more reasons than just that she may be lying to you. The most basic reason, though, is that life is too short to have crappy friends. Enough said. Good luck, and I wish you the best!
Yeah Heather, you'r right about two things,
I've been in a similar situation. Lying is really difficult when it hurts the people around you. From the view point of a compulsive liar, she knew what she was doing. Also, the being raped story I wouldn't believe. I used that exact same story on a girl that I loved with all my heart and just like you, she walked away from me. And maybe your friend will be smart for a change and tell everyone in her life that she did lie and that if you will forgive her, can you still be friends. I did that to all my friends and I only lost two, the two that I had known the shortest, one I had known the best and was in love with the difference between you and her, she didn't know I was lying. I hate to sound like I'm talking about my problems but you did the right thing. Maybe you should go talk to her. Tell her that you know she's lying and that if she considers you a friend she wants to keep for a long time that she should just tell you and spare you the heart ache. The best way to intimidate a liar and prove them wrong is to catch them in lie. If she's anything like me, she's lies so someone will say, "bullshit. tell me the truth." The only reason people like me and her lie, we want someone to dig beyond our barriers and tell us that they'll be there forever. I hope that helped in anyway.
Hey Caitlin M, first I wanna thank you for reading my story (I wanna thank eveyone who read it, and commnted) and wanna say that I told her that I don't believe her, and asked her for th truth many times, but she is still hanging on to her story... So I made a deal with myslef, I won't even talk to her (cuz frankly, I despise her right now) and I'm ready to put everything behind me if she only tells the truth. But I won't tell her that, because I want her to do it beacause she wants to, not because she thinks this will bring us back.
That totally makes sense. Although you never know what goes on in someone's head. You read and commented on my other story about how I feel in love with Tiffany, I came clean once and for all about everything because I was in pain from what she had done to me, which is what you are doing to your friend. I came clean about everything. You should read my other story to see what I lied about, probably more than your friend and then maybe you should see that not everyone deserves what they're given and what's been taken away. And that not everyone deserves a really great friend but they come along anyway. And that not everyone who lies about cutting their self deserves to think about it constantly afterward. That because of their lies they prefer to be dead. And maybe you'll realize that your friend did all this because she may be dead on the outside and she's trying to get someone to help her through everything. Maybe you should go to her and say I know you're lying, with all of my heart I know you're lying and I'm going to give you until tomorrow at this time to tell me the truth, the complete truth and maybe I can find it within myself to stay. Maybe that's what she needs to hear even though you don't want her to know. Maybe all anyone needs is someone to care.