anonymous’ Story
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So, long story short...
anonymous made the mistake of
getting talked back into a relationship
My Advice to You is
go with your gut feeling and stick to your guns
Here's the whole story
After years of unacceptable behavior from my ex-husband consisting of mental / emotional abuse and spiralling down into several episodes that involved the police and him drinking, the straw that broke my back was a call on my way home from work from the police saying he had been throwing things like remote controls and telephones out of our (closed) windows. When I arrived I was shaken and afraid, they left, I put him to bed - but arranged my things to leave in case he should wake up. After a few minutes of quiet, a bed post came flying out of the bedroom. It was then that I took my things and headed to my parents house nearby...This was the end for me and I was glad. But for my family it was the 1st they had seen or heard of "our issues" and loved my Joe, so an intervention later when i could only summon up the strength to say i needed space away from him, they really wanted to help us work out our issues. That sunday, went with my stepfather to check out open houses ..he is in the mortgage business and does this for fun, when we saw a gorgeous condo and he said "Can you see yourself living here?" well the answer was yes...and I was convinced to think about us moving and a new beginning.
Needless to say it didn't work - he fell into the same patterns of alcohal abuse and self-destruction and it ended explosively with him destroying a bunch of things in our place..and that was it.
Now i have a gorgeous condo by myself and am rediscovering who i am and couldn't be happier -but could have been here sooner. Moral of the story - listen to your instincts and dont' let anyone talk you back into a relationship you are ready to leave.
Comments (1)
People on the outside, despite the fact that they mean well and no matter how close they are to you, never REALLY know what goes on behind closed doors. Good to hear you're doing great and have put it behind you!