hershy’s Story
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So, long story short...
hershy made the mistake of
not being clear as far as relationships or friends
My Advice to You is
make it clear "relationship or friends"
Here's the whole story
so about a year ago i meet a girl doing what i love to do, sail, we hang out some next couple months, sailing.. I ask her out to which she replys "i just got out of a serious relationship..."
ok cool not a problem, we hang out for the next 7-8 months,
skip forward present day, she calls up wants to go sailing, so we go out have a good time, it comes out that she is dating, essentially playing the field, seeing whats out there.. nothing serious. She comes and hangs out with me and my friends on the 4th of July, has a good time. I was starting to get the impression of a "friends only scenerio" if i did not ask her out on a real date soon. So i sent her flowers at work,
"Hope u had a good time on the fourth, i did, let me take you to dinner tonight"
Well she texts me saying thanks for the flowers, but has other plans, i never got the text, so I give her call, to see if i can take her out looking like an idiot because she thought i got the text.
Anyway she probably thinks i am an ass, because i got all of her other texts but not that one, apparently she said thanks for the flowers, but i have other plans tonight
She later tells me that she only wants to be friends.
I thought i made it apparent early on that i wanted more than friends by asking her out when i first met her. I then gave her time to get over her relationship, and then i asked her out again a year later after she called me, and we hung out.
I liked the girl, but apparently the feeling as far as a dating stand point goes, was not mutual. So lost another one to "just friends syndrome"
Comments (5)
I hate being in the friend zome. Girls def need to get that out there sooner then later
Ah the friend zone. I know you well.
"I just got out of a serious relationship..." I'm sometimes bothered by the communication between men and women. Women tell half-truths in order to appear polite instead of telling the whole truth which is, they're not interested - but they hope you get the message and if you don't you're looked at as some kind of retard (I'm not calling you one).
I believe she was saying she wasn't interested from the beginning and wanted to be just friends. She just gave you some half-ass answer instead of telling the complete truth. Women and their politeness, I hate it - won't you be more direct with us, we're men, we can take it. You made it apparent that you were interested, but she didn't make it apparent that she wasn't -until later.
girls can be very mean, especially when it comes to the "friends zone."
if you guys were like me you'd just go straight for the kill immediately and all your cards are on the table. maybe that's why I don't have any girl friends....hmm..
LOL, I make it really clear really soon, just cause I would not want to be in that predicament. It looks like there are more confused guys out there than confused gils though, IDK. Maybe???